#ThatConfettiVibe

We’re back for Season 3 exploring the concept of a 'confetti vibe'—a metaphor for finding joy amidst life's chaos. Don't mind us...we're just over here forever in our confetti era, trying to change the world one little piece of confetti at a time...
We talk about…
♥ The fear of happiness
♥ 5 metaphors confetti represents
♥ Intentionally choosing joy & finding it in unexpected places
♥ How to join our confetti revolution

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Hosted by Jessica Serra Huizenga and Alexis Goddard
Produced and Edited by Cliff Huizenga
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Chapters

• 0:00 Episode Teaser
• 1:02 We're Back!
• 9:25 A Confetti Vibe...
• 18:36 Quotes & Concepts
• 22:43 In Our Confetti Era

Transcript

You find confetti, and you're like, oh my god, I just cleaned up.

And that's sort of, again, this kind of visceral reaction people have to confetti.

They're like, oh, you gotta clean it up, and oh, it's everywhere and stuff like that.

But why are we so upset about it?

It's not like it's dirt or bugs or something disgusting, but shouldn't it be like, oh my god, I just found a piece of confetti.

Why aren't we excited about it instead of like, oh man, now I gotta bust out the vacuum again.

Greetings from Confetti Land, home of The Confetti Bar.

I'm Jessica, founder and confetti artist.

And I'm Alexis, head of happiness.

Join us here in this magical, colorful place where we have fun, feel feelings, and encourage you to embrace your unique version of happiness and all of its beautiful messy pieces.

We are so excited to have you join us.

Season three.

We've made it two whole seasons under our confetti belts.

I've got a new set up for season three, a new background, if you will.

I'm really all about it.

Lots of confetti things happening in the background.

Disco balls, glitter, color, love it.

You're always in Confetti Land up there in Connecticut.

I said, I need to be in my Tennessee Confetti Land for this.

Yes.

We'll see how long it lasts because it is a little bit more work than just sitting on a kitchen island.

Listen, Confetti Land, it's sometimes a difficult place to get to.

As much as we maybe think it's quite accessible, not always.

Yes, but metaphor in there somewhere.

Honestly, that was good.

It took it deeper and I appreciate it.

Diving right in.

Must be the new sweatshirt, new Confetti Land sweatshirt.

Just that rainbow embroidery.

It really gets me in the mode, the confetti mode.

Actually, it gets me feeling my confetti vibes, which is apropos because I think that's really where we are with season three.

I mean, we talk about it all the time and it's sometimes unspoken, sometimes maybe spoken, but I think really this season in particular, we really want to kind of embody that confetti vibe or that confetti feeling, if you will.

So I have to ask you, Alexis, what is a confetti vibe or that confetti vibe?

Hashtag that confetti vibe.

Hashtag that confetti vibe.

I think that that confetti vibe is something that we talk a lot about here in Confetti Land.

It is looking for the joy amidst the chaos of this world.

We are looking for the beauty in the messy, remembering that things, yes, can be very hard, but we know that there is hope and we know that there is joy.

And what a better symbol than confetti?

Well said.

I think if we give the people kind of an official definition, if you will, a confetti vibe, dictionary voice on.

Confetti vibe can be defined as a lively, joyful energy that evokes feelings of celebration, fun, and playful spontaneity.

It's the mood that captures the essence of embracing beautiful messes.

It's about embracing the unexpected, enjoying the little bursts of happiness, and celebrating life's moments, big or small, with a sense of wonder and acceptance.

Is this from your dictionary?

It's from my personal dictionary.

Yes.

Where's the people at Merriam-Webster?

How do we get this official definition?

Okay.

But seriously, because you nailed it.

This is exactly what it is, Jessica.

I mean, I guess you are the inventor of hashtag The Confetti Vibe.

So it makes sense, but still, well said.

Well, I'm putting my English degree to good use by inventing a term and a definition, okay?

But no, yeah.

I mean, I think we say it, and as we've said many, many times here in Confetti Land, it's not just about happy, right?

I mean, that's the core of it, and that's what we're always striving for and what we're always looking for.

But that doesn't mean that's in the absence of anything else that's harder.

To me, the Confetti vibe, hashtag that Confetti vibe is anything that does force you to think about looking for joy, and that doesn't mean it has to be a happy moment, but it is something that does kind of make you think about where is the joy here, even if it is something that's kind of hard.

And I think, I don't know, do you feel like we as a people are generally kind of like afraid of happiness?

I was thinking about this the other day, and we talk about it a lot.

We like to, I think, in many ways, assume and or pretend we're happy.

But really, I think maybe as a society, we're kind of afraid of it.

We almost try to delay it or feel like we have to deserve it and that's why we have parties or certain things are like, oh, if this happens, then I'll celebrate and it has to be something that's worthy of a celebration.

And I don't know, is it just me?

Am I making that up?

I don't think that you're making it up.

I wonder, do you think it's because we are afraid, like we're discouraged and like we're afraid that we're going to be disappointed and so we're like waiting to pull out the confetti, waiting to do what because we don't know if it's going to happen?

Yikes.

I guess.

Yeah, but I think there's like something, at least for me anyway.

I mean, we've talked about this with Kate, it's black, you know, with like using like the good art spot.

It's like almost like you, you put all this pressure on it, that it's like it needs to feel like a big moment and needs to feel like, I don't know, maybe we're ruined by like movies and stuff like that, where it like it needs to feel like it's like this big production.

And, you know, like, I don't know, it's just every, every day and every moment.

And that's why, you know, and it is hard.

I think we're just kind of conditioned, like that's why there are like certain celebrations and you like, you know, we'll spend months like planning a certain party or, you know, for a certain holiday and things like that, which I don't think is a bad thing in and of itself, to have something to look forward to and to kind of force yourself to like really kind of celebrate something and go all out.

But I think it's at the sacrifice of celebrating things every day and like having those little like mini celebrations and even doing the things like, you know, using the fun plates and cups, you know, just for like your breakfast on a Tuesday morning instead of like, no, it has to be this party with this theme and like all of the things.

Yeah.

So, yeah, I don't know.

Ponder, ponder that, everyone, if you will.

Like, are you afraid of happiness?

Do you feel like you deserve happiness?

Do you delay happiness?

These are big questions to think about.

But I think, you know, the way we break it down, you know, obviously, yes, we use confetti as like kind of the symbol for celebration here.

But I think it's one of those things like love it or hate it.

Confetti definitely makes you feel something.

And I know, like we've talked about this, like people usually have very strong reactions to it.

So I think that's part of why, like, I love it as a symbol because it does like cause a reaction.

And it's something that people have like a very vivid kind of picture of what it is, even if you're kind of thinking of different things, whether you're picturing like the confetti on New Year's Eve or like sprinkled on a table or, you know, vacuuming it up for three days, like whatever it is.

Like if it does like stick with you, maybe literally sometimes, but it's something that is so symbolic and does kind of conjure up these feelings and thoughts and images for each of us.

But the question is, can we then use it in our everyday lives?

And can we bring it in to the smaller moments and kind of not assume that it is only for the bigger moments?

The location is too small to make it special.

Exactly.

A little confetti rain thrown in there.

Just a little.

It's felt appropriate.

But yeah, I definitely agree.

I think like use the fun napkins, use the fun plate.

Don't wait for it.

We talked about that even with Tiffany too.

Always just kind of wrestling with this and trying to pull out the confetti vibe and inspire others to do the same.

Exactly.

And I think we've said this and I think we talked about this with Yelena too about how confetti is sort of like the perpetual metaphor for all sorts of things.

And so I think I've sort of we listed it.

We have five things that I think really sort of explain like what a confetti vibe is or does.

And I think it is very metaphorical in lots of ways.

But should we go through them?

Let's do it.

OK, so number one, a confetti vibe can be messy, but it is also beautiful.

So, yes, I mean, we talked about this all the time.

Like I think, you know, broken record.

But yes, confetti is about happy things.

It's about looking for joy and all of that.

But it also can be about hard things.

And, you know, again, learning to accept and celebrate and find meaning and hope and joy, even in some of those darker times.

And yes, again, not everything is always sunshine and rainbows and nor are we pretending it should be.

But that doesn't mean it's any less worthy of celebrating because it is still part of your experience.

And I think that's really like what we're getting at, right?

Like our lives are our experiences and each one of us is going to have a very different set of moments and set of feelings and thoughts and all of these things.

And that in and of itself is what we're celebrating at the end of the day, right?

Just like being human, being here, doing the things, living our lives, meeting people, enjoying, experiencing, all of that kind of stuff.

All those things are growing you and worthy of celebration.

Exactly.

And I think kind of, you know, and again, we've talked about this many times, but how open you are to the mess and beauty of confetti is a direct correlation to how open you are to the mess and beauty of life.

And, you know, I've said it, I've experienced it, but it is, it's like, it's like how you react to confetti is almost like a direct correlation to how you show up in life and, you know, how much you embrace like the mess and the chaos and all of that kind of stuff.

But I think it also speaks to like how much you can enjoy beauty and you can look for those good moments and see the color and, you know, all of the celebrations.

So, you know, forever and always, that will be that will be my stake in the ground.

How you view and react to confetti is a symbol for how you react and show up in life.

You know who I think would get behind that confetti vibe?

Ms.

Frizzle.

She always said to make mistakes, get messy.

I butchered that.

But what did she say?

I don't know what's on my head, but I do love me some magic school of us.

Throwback.

We'll have to figure that one out.

She'd be here for it.

I do need to fact check myself.

But it was something along those lines.

And she was always encouraging the kids to really get inside their learning.

So yes, literally, literally, literally.

No, but yeah.

And I think I think if I really wanted to kind of maybe wax poetic on it, you know, the idea of confetti being that conduit to your soul, like it's your inner joy.

It's the symbol for again, how you show up in life and sort of how you react and sort of your own personal.

What's the word I'm looking for?

The way that you kind of experience life and the way that you choose to approach any situation.

And, you know, do you lead with kindness and color and hope and joy?

Or do you lead with the idea that everything is just like messy and chaos and terrible and bad?

And, you know, I think that's the difference.

And I'm not saying it's easy and I'm not saying I show up with my confetti spirit all the time, but it is something that does definitely remind me constantly to have that confetti feeling and that confetti vibe.

It like connects you back to wonder.

I feel like that sometimes we can kind of grow cynical to as we get older.

But yeah, bringing you back to some of that joy and hope that you had maybe as a kid.

Exactly.

And I think it's funny, I was thinking about this the other day, too.

Like in a very like concrete way, like I've always gotten emails from people who ask about, you know, the custom confetti and like the actual physical confetti.

And they, you know, people ask if they could like use it in cannons or, you know, they want to shoot it off in an event.

And like, I've always said, like, you know, our confetti is heavier than most, so it's like not used for cannons.

But like, when I really break that down, like it literally has taken me a decade to make this connection about like, our confetti is heavier than most.

But like, it's more than just a physical description of the confetti.

And we're always like talking about all of this deeper stuff and all of this, like, deeper meaning that the confetti holds.

And so I just think that's funny that literally for years, I've said that and only just now realized how symbolic that actually was.

No, seriously, that's wild.

That is wild.

I also didn't know that you had gotten like some of those requests.

And so like, yeah, you have to be like, OK, well, actually, like, this looks a little bit different.

And to connect that we we love a metaphor here.

In confetti land.

So that's all the confetti metaphors.

Speaking of metaphor number two.

OK, so a confetti vibe forces you to be in the moment.

So obviously, confetti, like, you know, when you're throwing it and tossing it and it's like raining down around you, like you really don't have any choice.

But to be in that moment and to experience it, because it's literally like right in your face, sometimes in your mouth, like in your eyes, like everywhere.

So I think that's just very apropos.

Like it does.

It does force you to kind of think about where you are now.

And I think that's something a lot of us probably struggle with.

I know I struggle with like being in the moment and confetti just helps remind me to do that.

Yeah, a reminder that we all need to be present instead of always thinking about what's coming up next.

I, yeah, I'm still learning that lesson.

Yes, we are.

Okay, metaphor number three.

A confetti vibe helps you release control.

And again, like when you really think about like the physical act of like tossing confetti, like you're giving up that control.

You don't know where it's going to land, where it's going to go.

You can't control it even if you tried.

So again, I know, I know I talk about that a lot in my therapy about, you know, trying not to control everything.

And it is, it's true.

Like, I think sometimes we hold on to things so tightly and we want everything to be perfect or like the way we expect it to be.

And confetti just comes in and says, mm-mm-mm.

Jaleen.

All right.

Metaphor number four.

A confetti vibe surrounds you.

And again, just like confetti, when it's floating all around, it's everywhere.

It is all around, up, down, everywhere you can think.

And I think that's when we really talk about having a confetti feeling or experiencing a confetti vibe.

It is something that just sort of like overtakes you and it does kind of surround you in every way.

And like those are the moments we're looking for, the ones that do consume us in some ways, but in a positive way and like looking for that joy and that hope and you just like feel it deep down in your soul and it's kind of all around you.

And I think confetti does that.

Inside and out.

Inside out is a good movie, by the way.

Yes.

All right.

And then our fifth kind of metaphor, a confetti vibe.

You have no choice but to surrender to it.

So this kind of goes along with the idea of releasing control.

But like you really don't you don't have a choice.

Like you're in it, confetti, you're tossing it.

It's coming down.

It's raining down.

It's all on the table.

It's on the floor.

Like you have to give in to it.

You're going to be cleaning it up.

You're going to be finding it.

Like you just have to embrace it and just like give yourself over to that confetti feeling and the literal confetti.

Yeah, I think that's super wise of just like that release and finding that joy even if you're picking it up a couple of days later like with confetti.

Well, so that actually reminds me so we we sometimes share.

I don't know if you'd call it a quote, but we share this thing on our social media sometimes.

Yeah, a quote, a JSH original.

But we share it on social media and people always seem to like respond to it.

But the idea is like, OK, so confetti gets everywhere, right?

After a single party, you can find pieces for literal years to come tucked in cracks by the baseboard and stuck in under the rug.

You vacuumed a million times before.

But isn't that how we want joy to be found everywhere, always, and even in unexpected places?

My favorite quote.

I think it's true though, right?

Like, and again, I'm guilty of this too, so I don't want anyone to think, you know, I'm not, but...

We aren't exempt.

Yeah, like, you know, you find, like, confetti and you're like, oh my God, like, I just cleaned up.

And that's sort of, again, like this kind of visceral reaction on people have to confetti.

Like, oh, you got to clean it up.

You know, it's everywhere and stuff like that.

But why, like, why are we so upset about it?

It's not like it's like dirt or bugs or like something disgusting.

But like, shouldn't it be like, oh my God, I just found a piece of confetti.

Like, why aren't we excited about it instead of like, oh, man, now I got to bust out the vacuum again.

Yes.

Let it bring back some smiles and joy.

I giggle every time I find a piece of confetti that I've tracked into the shower or that's up in my freezer.

Tell me how that happens.

I don't know.

And my parents are still finding confetti from when I lived with them.

I mean, and it's just like a little reminder of me for them.

But seriously, it's fun to be reminded of like whatever you were celebrating, you know, the reason for that confetti happening and take you back to that little moment of joy.

I think that that's one of the best things that confetti does is bring you back to joy.

Exactly.

And that's why I think sometimes maybe we encounter situations and or, you know, experience certain things that we almost approach with that sort of negativity of like, oh man, like this is more inconvenient than anything.

But like, if we really kind of flipped it, and we're like, oh no, like this is exciting.

This is something that should like, you know, make me think about it a different way.

I think we would all be a little bit better off.

And, and I think it is, it is a lot of, you know, maybe how we've grown up and, you know, the things we experience and as we get older, it's maybe, you know, sometimes easier to be hardened by life.

But I think about even Emmy Joy, like, I'm hoping we're raising her in an environment where she is kind of finding that joy.

And she's still, like, she's still, I mean, granted, she's four, but, you know, she'll find a piece of confetti on the ground and she's like, mommy, look, I found some confetti.

And like, she's so excited about it.

And I like, I just truly hope she never loses that.

And I want, I want to be more like her and that.

And sometimes I am, but admittedly, sometimes I'm not.

I think we all should strive to be like, give me joy when we grow up.

I know I am.

She is, she is a character.

But yeah, and I think it comes back to, again, another quote, if you will.

But the whole idea, like confetti is a choice.

It's the choice to choose joy.

It's the choice to embrace the messy right alongside the beautiful.

And it's the choice to live a colorful and abundant life.

And I think about that both in the literal sense of like, I can choose to buy confetti and I can choose to decorate my party.

I can choose to put it in an envelope.

Like, you know, the literal physical using of confetti is a choice.

But obviously, when we think about kind of the more metaphorical meaning of it, it is the choice of like how you show up in life.

And I think, you know, again, I hope that we all can strive to embody that confetti vibe as much as possible.

So I think really to kind of sum up the kickoff to season three is really just the idea like, I mean, we're forever in our confetti era, to quote or play off of one of Alexis' heroes.

Tease, whizzle.

But it's true.

Okay, we're sitting here.

We're in our confetti era.

I hope everyone else wants to be in their confetti era too.

But we're just over here trying to change the world one little piece of confetti at a time.

A confetti revolution, if you will.

Yes, a confetti revolution, which everyone can join if they join our email list at theconfettibar.com/join.

But we are trying to start our own little quiet confetti revolution, if you will.

So I think more than anything, we want to leave everyone with the permission to go and find your version of hashtag that confetti vibe.

And please share it with us on social media using hashtag that confetti vibe.

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Thanks for visiting.

And I think kind of, you know, and again, we've talked about this many times, but how open you are to like the mess and beauty of life, I think is a direct correlation to how open you are to the mess and beauty of life.

Did I just say life twice?

I might have.

There's a chance.